A homeowner says she received a letter from a woman who used to live in her house, asking to see her childhood home as part of her “healing” journey.
By Jamie Lee
Nov. 8 2023, Updated 3:37 p.m. ET
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Do you ever dream about the house you grew up in? Or feel like it’d be fun to walk by it one day, maybe even knock on the door and tell whoever’s there that you used to live there? I know I’ve personally thought about it a couple times, but in the end decided I wouldn’t want to bother whoever’s living there. Besides, if someone showed up at my door telling me they used to live in my current home, I’d probably immediately be skeptical. (Or, let’s be real, I wouldn’t even answer the door in the first place.)
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But what if instead of finding a stranger at your door, you received a really thoughtful letter from someone who used to live in your house — and they very kindly requested a short visit, to help them on their path to “healing”?
Well, that’s what happened to this woman on Mumsnet, who got a letter like this in the mail. She’s not sure what to do, and folks under her post have different opinions about the whole thing. Let’s take a look…
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A homeowner received a letter in the mail from a person who used to live in her house — and this person has a very unique request.
In a post on Mumsnet‘s “Am I Being Unreasonable” subforum, a user named TMReunion (we’ll call her Tamara) says she got a letter in the mail from a woman in her 30s who grew up in the house Tamara currently lives in.
Tamara even says she remembers the “normal” family that she bought the house from 15 years earlier — a mom, dad, son, and daughter. The person who wrote the letter is the daughter. We’ll call her Diana.
In a very thoughtfully worded letter addressed to the “current owner,” Diana said that her therapist encouraged her to visit her childhood home as part of her healing journey for the trauma she experienced there while growing up. Diana said it would take no more than 10 minutes, and doesn’t mind if one of the homeowners has to accompany her the entire time. She also acknowledged that this was an unusual request, and she would completely understand being denied.
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Let’s take a look at the entire letter Tamara received:
Dear current owner,
This is a very odd request and I completely understand and respect if you do not feel comfortable with this and therefore, there is no need to respond if that is the case.
I grew up in, what is now, your home. I experienced a lot of trauma in the home and have been working through this for the last few years. I was wondering if I would be able to come and see the house again, as part of my healing. This was suggested to me by my therapist and I feel it would be beneficial. However, as stated, I understand this is an unusual request and my healing is of no importance to a perfect stranger, so please do not feel pressured to agree to this.
If you were to kindly allow this, I would of course expect to be accompanied round the house and this would take no more than ten minutes.
Thank you for taking the time to read this letter and if you would like to contact me my name is [‘name’ – ‘contact number’ redacted]. If not, I wish you and your family well.
Best wishes,
[Name Redacted]
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Tamara shared the letter with fellow Mumsnet users to get a sense as to whether her own feelings about it are normal.
“I feel really odd about it and almost distrustful,” Tamara writes in her post. “I also don’t like the thought that she experienced trauma in our home, almost like she’s trying to taint it.”
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She adds: “My husband thinks that although it’s odd, she is clearly doing some inner work and why wouldn’t we help someone who is in need? What do you think? [Would I be unreasonable] to ignore or should I text and feel it out from there?”
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Folks were divided over whether the homeowner should let the woman into her house.
“I think I would have to help her. It’s her trauma, not yours, and 10 minutes could make such a difference to her,” wrote one commenter. Many echoed the sentiment — but not everyone.
“I don’t think I would. You can choose to take the letter at face value or they may be something else going on,” someone else countered. Others had similar warnings, like whether or not this could be a scam, or if this person is casing the house for a robbery.
And some folks didn’t know what the best solution was, but they certainly sympathized with the dilemma.
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“Oh dear, that’s a really tough one,” someone wrote. “My first reaction was that of course you should let her, it’s not a massive inconvenience. But then, putting myself in your shoes, I don’t think I’d be happy having a stranger walking round my house tainting it. As in these bedrooms are my children’s, not a strangers rooms where bad things happened. It’s our home. But at the same time, I’d want to help. If I did allow it, I might say something like not wanting to hear anything about why the house is traumatizing to her. I don’t know. Either decision, you wouldn’t be being unreasonable.”
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Meanwhile, some folks were absolutely dead-set against the whole thing.
“Absolutely not. There’s way too much of this pandering nonsense around at the moment. Useless psychobabble,” one commenter said.
And some folks took issue with the OP’s use of the word “tainting.”
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“I’d see it less as her tainting your house and more than your house will help her heal, so it’s using it in a positive way,” a user wrote.
What do you think? Would you let someone in your home if they said they used to live there and could benefit greatly by visiting it?
After a clip and stills of Norwegian singer Bard (from the duo Ylvis) laying down in a coffin circulated the web, folks wanted to know what happened.
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The Gist
Rumors circulated online in November 2023 that Bård Ylvisåker from the duo Ylvis — of “The Fox (What Does the Fox Say?)” viral fame — passed away.
Folks who saw a VGTV televised “funeral” for the singer, which shows him laying down in a casket, led many to believe he was dead.
Singer Maria Mena led a choir in a slowed-down and sad performance of the viral hit track.
Bård is not dead, however, and the video was just indeed a staged performance.
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The phenomenon of viral one-hit wonders from artists who seemingly come out of nowhere and gain massive popularity on the internet are an interesting phenomenon: for a few weeks (or months, even), these tracks are seemingly everywhere. About a year or two later, playing the track at a party seems like an insult, until the appropriate “throwback” threshold has been reached.
Ylvis (a comedy duo composed of brothers Bård and Vegard Ylvisåker) is one such artist, but fans became worried in November 2023 that Bård may’ve passed away. But what really happened? And what has Ylvis been up to in the years since their hit 2013 track?
What happened to Ylvis?
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And while neither Mena or any of the other singers ever once cracks a smile throughout the performance, the same can’t be said for the folks who were in attendance for the artist’s funeral.
Which probably means one of the following:
(A) A few people at the funeral who were happy to see the singer dead
(B) A testament to how much of a bop “The Fox (What Does the Fox Say?) is
(C) Norwegians either have strange funeral customs or a sick sense of humor
(D) The funeral was staged, Bård is still alive, and the video was a bit of dark humor in action
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Of course one could add to the final aforementioned multiple choice selection that Ylvis could be making a wider statement on the life cycle of viral one-hit wonder tracks in general.
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Bård is indeed still among the living; after the performance, he even stood up, exited the coffin, and conducted an interview afterward.
While it’s difficult to imagine that anyone would see the video and so many of the laughing folks watching and recording the performance, and think that Bård legitimately died, there are some images that could’ve been lifted from the video that would lead folks to think he actually passed away.
And it wouldn’t be just pictures of him in his coffin that could convince folks he died; Marina Mena shared some photos in a multi-picture Instagram upload that shows just how far the video production went to replicate the look and feel of a legitimate funeral.
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In her post, she features a snapshot of a memoriam pamphlet showing Bård’s face along with his birth and fake death year and in another photo she’s holding up the same exact image on a funeral portrait style painting.
Again, however, the jovial nature of the other pictures in the post don’t exactly scream “rest in peace.”
What is Ylvis of “What Does the Fox Say” fame doing now?
After their 2013 mega-hit, the brothers continued to put out music, releasing their first album in 2014. They also continued to appear on Norwegian TV (where they first grew to fame) and even released a documentary series in 2018 that took stories from Norwegian news and turned them into musicals. And in 2022, they began making content for VGTV.
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The guys also post a slew of funny social media posts, interspersed with clips of musical performances, and even some extended love for the track that was a global phenomenon. A great example would be the somber instrumental version of “The Fox (What Does the Fox Say?)” set to this brilliant clip of a lost McDonald’s cheeseburger’s globe-trotting journey back home to their McFamily.
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So while yes, viral songs, just like many popular songs, can certainly become annoying after a while, Ylvis seems to be demonstrating a certain amount of gratitude for what they’re most known for while also displaying a stalwart ability to stick to a bit.
Joshua Jackson and Lupita Nyong’o appear to be dating. When did they get together? What’s the latest on their relationship? Details are ahead!
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The Gist:
Joshua Jackson’s marriage to Jodie Turner-Smith ended in October 2023.
Lupita Nyong’o also split up with her boyfriend around the same time.
The two actors have been seen together in recent months.
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Pacey is all grown up and making adult decisions about his dating life. Joshua Jackson has separated from his wife of three years and appears to be dating someone new: Lupita Nyong’o.
So when did the new couple get together? Tongues have been wagging in Hollywood and beyond about the possible timeline. Here are the all details about their relationship.
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October 2023: Joshua Jackson and Lupita Nyong’o first popped up together at a Janelle Monáe concert.
In October 2023, the former teen heartthrob and the Black Panther star were first spotted at a Janelle Monáe concert in Los Angeles, but fans weren’t sure what to make of the outing, since they were with a group of friends, per People.
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We’ll get to the interesting timing of the event in a moment, but first, the two would seemingly soon confirm that they are dating when Joshua and Lupita were seen running errands together in early December, also in Los Angeles.
Finally, on Dec. 5, Joshua and Lupita were photographed hand-in-hand in Joshua Tree, Calif., putting speculation to rest that they are indeed together after ending their respective previous relationships.
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Joshua Jackson split from Jodie Turner-Smith, his wife of three years, in October 2023.
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But by October 2023, Joshua and Jodie were done with happily ever after, with the actor’s wife filing for divorce and citing “irreconcilable differences.”
Sources even speculated that the union had grown “unhealthy.”
Someone who talked to People said about the couple who is no longer, “They are on very different paths in life. It turned into an unhealthy marriage that made her unhappy.”
Meanwhile, Lupita was with a partner and ended things on similarly cringeworthy terms. Perhaps the two A-listers bonded over their shared experiences getting out of toxic relationships?
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Lupita Nyong’o and her ex went their separate ways in October 2023.
Lupita dated her boyfriend Selema Masekela for about a year before things went way sour for the couple.
The star announced the couple’s bad breakup on social media, sharing in October 2023, “At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust. I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception.”
Ouch!
As for how serious things will get between Joshua and Lupita, well, for now other than the photos of the two holding hands, neither has confirmed the relationship or commented publicly on their feelings for one another.
We’ll have to wait and see if this is more than just a rebound — but is it bad if we really hope so?
An “Amish oil change” is the latest term spreading around TikTok, but many are unclear on the meaning behind the phrase and what it refers to.
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The Gist:
The term “Amish oil change” has been circulating on TikTok recently, and it has two definitions that are nasty in different ways.
The first involves a procedure that ensures that a horse has regular bowel movements, and the second involves performing a sexual act on the animal.
Frankly, we would encourage you to avoid trying either definition on your own if you can avoid it.
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While there are plenty of people who know how to change the oil in their cars, even those who are particularly good with cars may be confused by the idea of an Amish oil change. The phrase, which has trended on TikTok, seems to be a paradoxical take on the phase. After all, the Amish quite famously don’t drive cars.
Although the idea of an Amish oil change predates the internet, the phrase has become much more well known in large part thanks to its appearance on TikTok. Now, many people want to know what it means.
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What is an Amish oil change on TikTok?
In a car, oil changes are a necessary part of maintenance. If you don’t change the oil in your car regularly, it won’t work anymore.
The same is true for horses, who are living beings in their own right. They’re also key to many people’s livelihoods, including the Amish. Just like cars, horses need to be taken care of if you want them to carry you from place to place like the Amish do. The Amish also use horses to plow fields instead of using big machinery.
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An Amish oil change refers to a particularly nasty procedure that anyone, Amish or not, who has a horse may have had to do at some point. If a horse is sick and hasn’t been pooping regularly, its caretakers may have to put on a glove that goes all the way up to their shoulder. They reach into the horse’s rear end and unblock it so that it can once again have regular bowel movements.
Suddenly, the dirt required to change the oil on your car doesn’t seem too bad. For many non-Amish horse owners, they would call a veterinarian to come out and treat the horse — Amish oil change included. Although the Amish likely take care of a blockage themselves, most horse owners will pay a professional.
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The term “Amish oil change” came about because it’s a little bit like changing the oil on your car.
It’s a fairly clever turn of phrase that describes a pretty nasty part of animal care. Still, if you’re someone who works with horses regularly, you’re likely familiar with how gross the work can be at times.
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Urban Dictionary has an even grosser definition of the term.
If you’ve seen the term on TikTok, the definition explained above might be the one being used, but it’s also possible that an even grosser definition is the one you’re seeing.
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According to Urban Dictionary, an Amish oil change is “when a woman performs Fellatio on a horse and spits the cum out.”
Welp. Frankly, the less said about that particular definition of the term, the better.
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